What do men find attractive in women? 11 things that really matter
Not long ago, a friend of mine called to tell him about his new girlfriend.
“ She’s absolutely wonderful. She is sweet, she always laughs at my jokes and she is also very smart ”
This phone call inspired me to write an article for you to clarify once and for all what do men find attractive in women.
He didn’t say a word about her appearance but only talked about the inner qualities that he liked about her.
Because men are such visual creatures, it is often forgotten that the inner life of a particular woman is also of great importance to how beautiful the man finds her.
If you are aware of attractive, inner qualities you will be one step ahead of getting the man of your dreams.
In this article you will learn:
- The #1 unexpected thing you can do that he finds super attractive
- The secret to wanting to be a flirt the right way
- Why all men want to be like James Bond and how you can use that to your advantage.
- What are the unconscious signs that men find very attractive?
- What are “under the radar” signals that men like
- And much more….
But we men are and will remain visual beings and so the appearance of a woman is very important to men.
And because I am in such a good mood today, I will tell you something about what men like in terms of appearance at the end of the article.
That way you can combine beautiful inner and outer qualities so that he can only think about you all day long ?
Sounds good? Let’s start!
#1: Be flirty!
If there is one thing that men find interesting, it is a woman who flirts with him.
And that is of course not surprising.
Imagine you meet a very nice man and you start talking to him. But over time, he hasn’t given you any indication of interest…
Pretty annoying right? ?
Not only is it annoying because you don’t know exactly where you stand, but it’s also important that you occasionally flirt with the guy you have a crush on.
This is not only because men like flirty behavior. Most men are not very good at picking up unconscious signals.
The more you flirt with him, the sooner he will realize that you like him and the better this will work out for you in the longer term.
Because men love to be considered important and want to be appreciated. The more you flirt with him, the more you invest. This makes the man in question feel appreciated by you.
Obviously, this doesn’t mean you’re flirting with him 24/7, but showing flirtatious behavior on a regular basis is something that is highly appreciated by most men.
I will help you with this exactly how flirting should be done ?
- Compliment him. With this, you caress his ego and there is no man in the world who does not find that attractive ?
- Let him help you. Asking a man for help makes him feel important. Most men like to lend a hand to a nice woman.
- Show interest. Most people consider themselves one of the most fun to talk about. We men are no exception to the rule ?
- Challenge him a bit. Challenging men a little bit works very well if you want to flirt with him, more on this later in this article.
#2: Eye contact
Ever had a conversation with someone who constantly looked away while you were talking?
Talk a lot more difficult, don’t you think? ?
Research shows that eye contact is important for several factors in non-verbal communication.
In addition, eye contact is extremely attractive for men as well as for women.
Keeping strong eye contact radiates self-assurance and you immediately show interest in the other.
In addition, many men already think women’s eyes are beautiful in their own right, so give him the opportunity to look into them.
If you look at him longer than usual while talking, it also increases the sensual tension between you and arouses some attraction.
You understand, of course, that constantly staring into someone’s eyes in an intimidating way comes across as creepy.
Because to prevent it, you can occasionally look away, preferably when you are speaking.
But watch out for this.
Occasionally break eye contact during the conversation by looking to the side.
If you break up, it can come across as if you don’t find it interesting. Looking down can indicate shyness or insecurity.
So look him in the eye in a cheerful way and occasionally break off contact to the side.
#3: Have fun!
Have you ever noticed that it is more common for older men to have a slightly younger girlfriend?
This is because most men like playfulness and youthfulness in a woman.
A cheerful woman creates cheerful emotions in the man ?
Of course, this does not mean that from now on you have to take it with you to the playground every time ?
It is mainly about appearing cheerful and energetic to him. Tease him a little, play a game with him now and then, and bring out the child in you again.
Not only will the man in question find this very cute about you, but it is also fun for yourself! Children generally laugh 300-500 times a day while adults laugh about 15-20 times a day!
So a man only likes it when you bring some joy into his life.
So, take an example from Cyndi Lauper:
#4: AA: Attractive Touch
From now on I would like you to remember the abbreviation “AA”, especially when dealing with men.
And I’m not talking about those very sweet sports drinks ?
In this case, AA stands for attractive touch.
Various scientific studies have shown that touching has many benefits. People who touch others a lot are generally considered to be more intelligent, attractive and confident.
Men also like it when a woman dares to touch them. You can do this in the following ways:
- When you ask or want to say something to him, touch him subtly. This can be done, for example, by touching his shoulder or arm.
- Touch him when he makes a joke that makes you laugh. He will associate your touch with positive feelings which are nice for both of you.
- If you already know him a little better, you can touch him subtly on the neck, on his leg, or on the inside of his legs.
#5: Every man likes a challenge
When’s the last time you delivered a fantastic performance that you were extremely proud of?
This can be, for example, a diploma, or a certain prize that you have won or a goal that you have set for yourself and whatever you have achieved.
Whatever it is, I’m proud of you anyway ?
What matters most is the positive feelings you get when you have accomplished something important.
You probably don’t cheer every time you go shopping.
(Although I am always super happy when my fridge is full again, but that’s another story ?)
But if you get a promotion at work, that is of course cause for celebration. This is because you have had to work harder for it.
It is the same with men. Men love dealing with women who are somewhat of a challenge.
So he can do his best for you ?
You can do this by subtly teasing or distancing yourself from him every now and then. It is best to stay in touch for a day or meet up with your friends now and then instead of with him. After all, you also have your own life.
However, beware of this…
Playing extremely hard to get is counterproductive. If you are constantly flirting with other men, you keep canceling the date or instead of teasing him structurally and cracking his ego, I fear it will end soon.
#6: Make him think he’s James Bond
Like many other men, I am a huge James Bond fan.
In the 1960s, as James Bond emerged as a film phenomenon and became extremely popular, an interesting statement about the secret agent appeared in the media:
“James Bond is the man all men want to be and all women want to be with”
From saving the world to picking up the most beautiful women: James Bond can do it all.
Many men would also like to be such an all-rounder ?
You can use this to your advantage by caressing his ego and making him feel special. Men love to find a woman who looks up to them.
Laughing at his jokes or asking for help and praise the aforementioned are a guarantee of success.
Make it clear what you find so attractive about him and why he is special to you.
Alternating these compliments with some teasing jokes from time to time creates emotional stimulation which is a great recipe for attraction.
And that is always a bonus ?
After all, don’t all men win being your James Bond?
#7: Unconscious signals that men like
There are also certain signals that men like that are more focused on the subconscious.
I also call these signals under the radar signals. These are small, subtle things you can do that men find attractive.
- Biting your lip: This is an unconscious sign that you imagine what it would be like to be intimate with him. Although not all men will take it that way, it is still a powerful means of generating attraction.
- Playing with your hair: Many men find this attractive and it is a playful yet flirty gesture.
- Leaning forward: This shows interest and narrows the distance between you.
“Intellegence is sexy”
This statement certainly applies to dealing with men. If there is one thing that men love about a woman, it is intelligence.
If you come across as intelligent, you create space for depth, which ensures that the relationship between you and the man of your dreams does not remain superficial.
In addition, it has been proven that intelligent people are seen as more attractive. So a lot of advantages ?
You can appear intelligent by simply reading now and then or delving into certain topics. Keeping an eye on the news now and then does not hurt, so that you stay up to date and are aware of recent developments.
What also helps a lot is asking him questions. This may seem counterproductive, but intelligent people ask a lot of questions to understand things better.
In addition, you arouse his interest by continuing to ask questions, which is beneficial for both of you ?
Just watch out that you don’t become a know-it-all, men (and people in general) don’t like that.
#9: Take care of him
You’re not his schoolteacher and you don’t have to hang out with his mother, but caring behavior is something many men love about a woman.
Caring behavior has been in it since prehistoric times.
Men were looking for a caring partner to keep their offspring alive.
Fortunately, healthcare today is a lot better than it was then, so that makes a difference ?
Nevertheless, caring is still an important feminine quality for men.
Wiping his mouth, straightening his tie, or preparing healthy food when he’s sick doesn’t hurt at all ?
Not only touch or intelligence but also laughter is an attractive trait. Men not only love smiling women, but laughter is both a visual and an inner weapon to achieve the man of your dreams.
-Visual because laughing makes you more physically attractive
-Inside because even putting on a fake smile can help you feel more positive.
And positivity is an incredibly important trait for both men and women. No one is attracted to an ever-negative grumpy.
We have now discussed 10 inner things that men like about a woman.
Men are visual beings and so are attracted to things they can see.
So if I said appearance is not important, I would be lying.
Good looks are important for every man.
In addition, looking beautiful automatically ensures that you feel better about yourself.
Of course, that does not mean that you have to transform yourself into a Victoria Secret model. ?
The following tips can already ensure that men also like your appearance:
- Wear red. This color is associated with the challenge and it makes women more attractive.
- Shows about 40 percent exposed skin. Of course, you don’t have to go naked, but because men are visually oriented they find bare skin attractive.
- Long hair. Long hair is associated with femininity, so most men find it more beautiful than short hair. Of course, a short haircut like Halle Berry’s can also be attractive, but there is a difference between short and short-spicy ?
- A beautiful body. You don’t have to become a fitness guru, but if you eat well and exercise a lot, you will not only feel better, but men will also find you more beautiful to look at.
- Use makeup (in moderation). Makeup makes you more beautiful and it looks more feminine. Make sure you use it in moderation. A little make-up is nice, a putty face is not.
So, these were 11 things men like about a woman. To achieve the best results, I advise you to combine beautiful inner and outer qualities.
When you discover how these switches work and how you control them, you have the power to make him madly in love with you.
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