In this article you will learn:
- When a guy wants to kiss you (on a date), discover 17 surprising signs.
- How you see when a man tests if he can kiss you.
- When a man is ready to kiss for the first time.
- How to be 100 percent sure a guy wants to kiss you, so you don’t necessarily have to wait for him to take the first step.
How to recognize someone wants to kiss you
Here we are going to talk about how to tell if he wants to kiss you. I got a question from a woman who said:
“How can you tell if a man wants to kiss you and when does a man want to kiss you? Can I get some clarity about this, because I don’t understand anything about it?”
Well I understand that this is confusing.
We men also have a lot of trouble with this.
With the men I coached, and there are thousands of them, the number one question was, “When can I kiss her?”
The reason many people have difficulty with this is because…
“The kiss moment is the point where the flirting ends”
While flirting, you play a game where you actually spin around each other a little bit.
At the moment of kiss, there is very explicit intention between the two of you for the first time.
At that point you actually say, “Okay, we like each other.”
You let each other know that you think each other is more interesting than just a friendship.
That’s why kissing for the first time can be a bit scary…
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It is often the case that men do not dare to kiss
A man finds it very difficult to estimate whether you like him or not, in addition, we are very afraid of being rejected.
(especially when we really like you)
So it may very well be that he wants to kiss you, but he doesn’t dare.
One man needs an hour to cross this threshold, but there are also men who need 3 years for this (yup, I’m not making it up).
To prevent you from not realizing how nice it is to kiss him in 3 years, I have written down the 17 clear signs that tell you if a gut wants to kiss you.
Some of the signs are similar to the signs that a man likes you, but there are some subtle differences.
So here are the 17 obvious signs he wants to kiss you:
1. The eternal delay
Suppose you went on a date with a man and at the end of the date you are about to say goodbye.
At such a moment 2 things can happen:
- He gives you a kiss on the cheek and walks away.
- He stands obediently in front of you and looks at you hopefully.
In the first case, a man (at that time) has no interest in kissing you.
But when he stops in front of you and actually waits for something to happen, that is a clear sign that he wants to kiss you.
This is by far the most striking sign
That’s when a man waits for you to signal that it’s okay to kiss you.
The tricky part is that men are bad at picking up these kinds of signs
For example, you may be giving him one sign after another, but he just doesn’t see it.
(or he’s so nervous he just doesn’t dare)
Either way, when a guy lingers forever it’s a very clear sign that he wants to kiss you.
2. He’s flirting with you
You talk to friends, brothers, sisters and so on.
You only flirt with people you are attracted to.
Maybe you have ever tried to flirt with someone who didn’t want that?
If so, you’ve figured out the hard way that flirting has to come from both sides.
When a man tries to flirt with you, he is actually saying:
“I think she’s a nice woman, let me see if she likes me too.”
So if he flirts with you and recognizes some other signs, then you can (with confidence) assume that he wants to kiss you.
3. The interruptions are full of sexual tension
Almost every conversation has (short) interruptions.
So even when you are talking to each other there will be silences…
There is only a HUGE difference between:
A.) Awkward silences.
B.) Silences full of sexual tension.
When the silences are uncomfortable… RUN!
But when your silences are full of sexual tension… bingo!
The latter means that something clicks anyway, and he often drops those silences on purpose because he wants to kiss you.
Of course you cannot kiss and talk at the same time.
In short, suppose the short interruptions (which he may drop on purpose) are full of sexual tension, then he wants to kiss you.
4. He touches you
“Keep your hands off, you bastard.”
Every man’s terror, since the rise of feminism, many men are literally scared to touch a woman.
They are far too worried that they will be labeled as sexist.
Men think twice before touching a woman
(And in the meantime some women complain that there are no ‘real men’ anymore, but that aside)
When he touches you, it’s a sure sign that he wants more from you than being friends.
Chances are he’s figuring out how physical he can be with you.
For example, he will “accidentally” tap your hand before trying to hold your hand.
So if a man touches you frequently (not subtly anymore), chances are he wants to kiss you, but first of all, he wants to make sure you don’t reject him when he does.
5. The puppy’s head
This is a typical body language thing that both men and women do when we want to kiss someone.
If you’re talking to a guy and he wants to kiss you, what he automatically does is tilt his head slightly.
(just like a puppy does when you are waving a dog biscuit in front of him)
It is an unconscious thing we all do when we want to kiss someone.
In short, another clear sign that a man wants to kiss you.
6. He can’t help complimenting you
For men, communication is a way of exchanging information.
For women, communication is a way to strengthen a mutual connection, forge new bonds and sometimes it is just nice to tell about what you have experienced.
(that’s why women normally have less trouble flirting)
When a guy compliments you from scratch, that’s his way of saying:
“Hey, I’m trying to pick up on you.”
And believe it or not, a man doesn’t benefit from picking up a woman he doesn’t like at all.
So when he compliments you in between talks, he is doing it because he is trying to pick you up.
He tries to see how you respond to his positive attention and when he feels it is “safe” to kiss you, he will take his chance.
7. The perfume trick
He can do this in two ways:
- He leans in, smells you and then whispers in your ear that you smell good (often when going out).
- He tells you that smells good and he then uses that as an excuse to get closer to be able to smell extra good (often during dates).
I can already tell you that a man will not do this to a woman he finds unattractive.
It is a trick – as old as the road to Rome – with which he tries to become more intimate (read: he wants to kiss).
8. He laughs and makes penetrating eye contact
If you notice that he makes (and continues to hold) a lot of eye contact with you, he is in doubt.
If he also looks at your lips in between and then looks at you again, that is a one hundred percent guarantee sign that he wants to kiss you.
But he is still waiting for the right time.
… Or he waits to build up the tension a bit.
So when you see him making a lot of eye contact with you – and for longer than usual – it’s crystal clear that he wants more than just being friends.
9. The penguin
Many men subtly rock their torso back and forth when someone is in front of them they like.
Kind of like a penguin does.
When you see him turn from a man to a little kid who can’t help rocking his upper body, that’s a very good sign.
So if you recognize this – and a number of other – signs in him, then he is ready for the kiss dance.
10. He wets his lips
Suppose you have an intermission where the sexual tension is clearly noticeable (sign # 3), that is enough reason to assume that he wants to kiss you.
But if he also wets his lips at such a moment…
… then only one thought haunts his man’s brain:
“I want to kiss her now.”
If you recognize this sign, it is no longer a question of whether he wants to kiss you, but when.
And I can already tell you that the answer to that question is “fast”.
11. He removes a (non-existent) dirt from your face
Men are so subtle sometimes… but not really;)
When you are flirting and then suddenly he removes a (non-existent) filth from your face, it is because he wants to interrupt your conversation.
“You can’t kiss and talk at the same time,” he thinks.
When he does this while maintaining eye contact with you, it is obvious that he wants to kiss you.
12. He touches you in a kind of fleeting way
What I mean by this is that he touches you, but in a way like you’re red-hot. So hot it looks like he burns his fingers on you when he touches you for more than five seconds.
Of course he doesn’t really do this because you’re hot.
But he is doing this because he is testing how physical he can be with you.
Because if a guy doesn’t know if you like him (and if he can get physical with you), then he’s trying to figure this out one way.
And men are not as subtle with these things as women are, which is why he will touch you a lot in a fleeting way.
He’s actually trying to see if you like him with those short and fleeting touches.
And when he has collected enough ‘evidence’ of this, only then will he try to kiss you.
13. The whisperer
There are men who will whisper something in your ear on purpose, these can even be very trivial things.
Why a man does this?
A man can very easily build up sexual tension this way, I mean…
- It’s mysterious.
- He leans in with his whole body.
- He can place his hand subtly on your neck.
… and much more.
Basically, it’s a handy trick for a man to get closer.
And if he also slowly pulls his head back when he has whispered something in your ear, then there is no doubt:
“He wants to kiss you.”
14. He looks (subtly) at your lips
Unless you’re wearing bright yellow lipstick or – somehow – have off-pitted lips, a man isn’t going to look at your lips.
Watch this video to know why does a man stare at your lips:
15. He runs his hands through your hair
We already talked about sign # 12 that a man will test how physical he can be with you.
This way he will keep touching one step further before he will try to kiss you.
When he strokes your hair with his hand, this is another step.
But this is not just a step, no, this is often the LAST step.
In short, when a man does this, you can safely assume that he wants to kiss you.
16. The awkward steps
I see this a lot with my male customers.
It is super cute and therefore one of my favourite signs.
(I’m not sure what else to call it)
What happens at such a moment is that you see a man and woman standing opposite each other, then you see that the man takes a step back from nothing.
Moments later he takes another step closer.
This repeats a few times.
The reason for this is quite funny…
- When he takes a step back he thinks, “Shit, I think I got too close.”
- When he comes a step closer he thinks, “Let me subtly see how close I can get (and whether I can kiss her).”
It’s actually kind of a clumsy little dance he’s doing.
So if you have a grown man in front of you who moves like a little kid who doesn’t know where to put his feet, it’s because he really likes you.
At such a moment, he really wants to kiss you, but is afraid of getting too close.
17. He thinks his oral hygiene is very important
OK. Some men do everything they can to avoid bad breath.
They brush their teeth, floss, rinse with mouthwash, and also use chewing gum.
But the vast majority of men don’t use chewing gum.
At least not when it is not necessary.
When is chewing gum necessary?
Right, if he’s planning to kiss you (yup, I’m not making it up).
Well, this is not a one hundred percent guarantee that he wants to kiss you, but it is striking.
PS Don’t take it as an insult when he asks you if you want chewing gum, men often do this to see if you are open to kiss (… and not because you have bad breath).
I recognize a (few) of these signs… now what?
If you recognize multiple signs then that is a good sign, now there are 2 things you can do:
- Wait for him to kiss you.
- Take matters into your own hands and kiss him.
Whatever it is that you do…
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